I am a fan of EC3's and EC5's, they give a good connection and lots of surface area, but i can solder its not hard to learn to do. Hot iron and tin everything is the key. Youtube has some great videos.
Have seen Deans type connectors desolder themselves. Having said that they were used in the wrong application, car was running 6s on the grass and doing speed runs, he didn't think it was an issue. Everything else was cool, but the deans were the bottleneck, got hot with the resistance, go figure, couldn't handle the 100 amps the car was trying to pull.
Most connectors will do the job, given that they are rated for the application you are using them for.
Lipos can be safe given you treat them right. From my heli days was always told to only run the packs down to 20% and storage charge when not in use and ALWAYS balance charge. Most fires come from not hooking up the balance leads. When i stopped flying, all the packs i forgot to storage charge are now all puffy. All the packs i did, are still fine and have been using in the cars. Now if i can only find a use for these 6s packs

I charge just before using the packs now, batteries always seem to have that bit of extra pep straight off the charger.
Something else i invested in was good charger (revlectrix PL6 1000w and 1200w power supply) means you can really sink amps into the lipo quickly if the internal resistance of the battery is low enough. It calculates IR and shows what % of the pack at the start of the charge cycle and while charging. I charge my packs quickly 20 minutes or so. Then storage charge when i get home. But most low budget chargers won't have this option. Doesn't mean they aren't good they will still do the job. I also AWLAYS keep an eye on the packs while charging, looking at IR's of each cell and voltages.
Lipo alarm i find is a must even if your ESC has lipo cut off. I think the cut off on car ESC's is way to low. 3.5v on my older packs usually leaves 20% in them, and 3.6v on my newer packs seems to be the sweet spot for me. The voltage bounces usually to around 3.75v which is roughly 20%. Only the high quality ESC's can be programmed for what i think is a suitable cut off. Most out of the box settings for cut off, in my opinion are way too low, but that's just my opinion, dont take it as gospel.
Sorry for the long post, just my thoughts on Lipo's
